Are you expecting? Have kids already? How do you deepen the connection with your little one(s)?
Way back what feels like a hundred years ago when I was pregnant with the boy, I was a super nervous Nellie. And, I was sea sick – so, so seasick feeling for 24 weeks. I wanted to get excited about the pregnancy but after all the work to get baby in there I had a hard time believing it was real.
I spent months believing I’d have the rug pulled out from under me and the baby would be gone. Poof. I couldn’t make plans. I couldn’t buy tiny outfits, purchase anything for the nursery or see baby as a sure thing. I felt like I was in limbo.
I NEEDED to do something that made me feel there might be a baby at the end of the tunnel, but I also needed to have minimal emotional attachment to whatever this was. So, I started buying books for the bump. I choose books because I felt like I could easily donate them if something went wrong and I wouldn’t be imagining him in them like little clothes or blankies.
In hindsight, I wish I’d kept track of which book went with which week, because I dutifully purchased one book for each week of the pregnancy. In the early days of building my bump library I had to buy a few books at a time to make up for the weeks that had passed before I hatched my plan. And in the end, I only got to book 39 because the boy came 6 days early.
Laying in bed at night reading these carefully selected books to the bump allowed me to make a connection that I so desperately wanted and so desperately feared. We still read some of these books at bedtime. I bought picture books, board books and soft books. There were some I had loved myself as a child and some that just caught my eye at the bookstore.
It was at around 30 weeks that I finally started to get all the other necessary baby things lined up for his arrival. At that point, there was an empty room and a simple shelf filled with 30 books, just waiting for a little mind to open up and let the stories flood in. And a heart, full to the brim with love for the little unborn guy, just waiting for him to arrive so it could open up and finally let all of that love flood out.
If you need suggestions for some books to purchase for baby, feel free to see our weekly blog post called Amanda’s Pick.