Feb 042014


Well, I’m gonna say right off the bat, that while I am absolutely thrilled to be guest blogging for MommieFirst, I’m not an expert. I’m the same as every want-to-be-a-mom, expecting-mom and just-trying-to-make-it-through-another-day-mom out there.


The only ‘expertise’ I have on Motherhood comes from living it, sometimes loving it, other times just trying to survive it. My house can be an embarrassment, my older kid’s behavior can be deplorable, and, when I was pregnant, I didn’t glow. Not for one day. That’s not to say I wasn’t thrilled to my sea-sick gills to be pregnant or that I don’t thank my lucky stars for my sweet littles every day. (I was, I do). More to say it hasn’t been easy. Real life is messy. Well mine is anyway. And, for me, the rewards don’t come without their fair share of hard work.


Thanks to a boat load of stick-to-it-ive-ness and the miracle of modern medicine, our family has been blessed with 2 petites. The first is now 4 and is a charming, funny, adorable handful of a boy. The second is a 13.5 month old baby girl. She is tiny, and giggly and feisty. She has to be, I suppose. She was born 6 weeks early and took a 25 day pit stop in the NICU on the way home. She’s also been diagnosed with a very rare genetic syndrome and has to work hard at every little thing that comes easily to other babies. That has brought a whole other aspect to parenting that I wasn’t expecting but we’re taking it in stride. And, she really is very cute which goes a long way when she is wide awake at 3 am. I also need to note the two in between. Part of so many other women’s story too, my miscarriages also play a role in defining who I am and my perspective on the road to parenthood. I know, people say *you’re not supposed to talk about miscarriage*, but I just don’t believe that to be true. And besides, this is my story, and I can talk about what I like.


Huh, when you lay it all out like that, it seems like a sad story. Infertility, never-ending morning sickness, more infertility, miscarriages, special needs baby. Please don’t read it that way. It’s not. It is the story of a hope that endured to produce one joy, was tested not once, but twice, then was blessed again. It’s every mother’s story. It’s a love story. And really, what’s a good love story without a few tears, right?


Like I said before, I’m no expert, but I am thrilled to be able open up the pages of our book and share our story.


I hope you enjoy the ride.

  • loriag

    Thank you for sharing a bit of your story. We need to hear each others stories as we all have things to share and things to learn from each other. Blessings on you and yours.

  • Elva Roberts

    Thank you so much for sharing part of your life with us. Your babies sound so sweet and happy and so do you. Bless you for your attitude and your love for life. Hugs.

  • ioana c.

    Thank you for sharing , i had 2 miscarriages as well before having my 2 kids , they were very difficult to deal with , but now i can look back and not be sorry anymore because my beautiful babies wouldn’t be here today if things didn’t happen that way!!

  • Cheryl Grandy

    Congratulations on your wonderful babies. Thanks for sharing that it’s not all a bed of roses but is so worth it.

  • Lynda Cook

    Awe thanks for sharing, at least you told it like it is, nothing is perfect we do not live in a perfect world. Thanks for sharing your story and for being honest, and if you want to talk about your miscarriages go right ahead, whoever said your not to talk about it is so totally wrong..just be yourself and keep strong and love your family!!!

  • kristen visser

    awe this was beautiful!! thank you so much for sharing <3

  • Josh S

    Thank you for sharing. Dads can appreciate this also.

  • Emily Chui

    Thank you so much for sharing your story in such a touching and insightful way, I can’t wait to hear more!

  • kathy downey

    We moms need to stick together,be honest with ourself and others ,sometimes the ride is hard but you will never in a lfetime forget the pleasures and memories it will bring

  • Annette

    You are so honest, thank you, moms aren’t perfect!!!! Also, your children sound adorable and I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage!

  • Yuen Ch

    My sister is going to be expecting a baby soon and this brings a new perspective of how life will be after the baby.

  • Bev

    I agree that “the rewards don’t come without their fair share of hard work” especially in relation to motherhood.

  • Alisha

    Thanks for sharing this so truthfully! We moms need to stick together, be honest, and enjoy the ride as much as possible!

  • Sarah at Journeys of The Zoo

    Thanks for sharing a chapter of your story Mel.

    I’m not sure who says “you’re not supposed to talk about miscarriage” but I hope that it wasn’t someone that actually went through it. Besides, if we listened to what people said all the time, no one would be happy. I mention my (deceased) son every single day. Yes, it makes some people uncomfortable and that’s unfortunate, however, I know for a fact that I am the one that is left more uncomfortable having to live one day, let alone a lifetime without my son.

    Looking forward to hearing more of your enlightening and non-expert opinions.

    Signed, A non-Expert Herself
    Sarah, Blogger at Journeys of The Zoo

  • kathy downey

    very well said

  • Vanessa

    Honest, Amazing and I can definitely relate!!! LOVE IT!