Nov 212014
 

We have partnered up with HealthGist to bring to you a chance to pamper yourself. As a Mom or Mom-to-be, we recognize that you work really hard to take care of your child(ren) and your family.

You deserve to be pampered once and a while too!

Don’t forget to take care of yourself! Healthgist offers you FREE information for how to take care of yourself and to stay as healthy as you can.

Enter our Giveaway Below to be Pampered…
Prize: $50 Gift Card to Spafinder
Giveaway Open to: Canadian and US Residents (must be age of majority in place of residence at time of entry to participate.)
Giveaway ends: December 15, 2014 11:59 pm EST

Giveaway Rules and Regulations:
No purchase is necessary.
Giveaways are subject to all Federal, Provincial, and Municipal laws and regulations.
Giveaways are void where prohibited by law. By entering the following giveaway, you are accepting that if you win your contact information (including email address) will be shared with a company or PR agency for the purpose of mailing your prize.
All giveaways hosted by MommiesFirst are not associated, nor sponsored by Facebook or any other Social Media platform. We hereby release Facebook (and all other social media platforms) of any liability.
Winners will be selected randomly using Giveaway Tools within 72 hours of the giveaway.
Winners will be notified via email. Winners will have 72 hours from the time the email was sent to respond with the answer to a skill testing question and their full name, mailing address and phone number (required for shipping purposes only). If no response has been received (note – MommiesFirst will not be held responsible for faulty email or any technical difficulties related to the sending/receiving of an email) by this time the winner will be disqualified and a new winner will be randomly selected.
Potential or disqualified winners have no recourse towards MommiesFirst or any other company, pr firm or person involved in this Giveaway.
Giveaways may end and/or be cancelled without notice.
MommiesFirst assumes no responsibility for any technical difficulties that may affect the entries in this giveaway or the communication/reception of emails, posts or messages between the winner and MommiesFirst. In other words, if your entry isn’t received properly due to technical difficulties, MommiesFirst will not be held responsible.
All giveaway entrants are entering giveaways on the MommiesFirst website, at their own risk. MommiesFirst nor the giveaway sponsor assumes any responsibility for the shipping, safe arrival, quality, taxes or duty fees for prizes.
Prizes are shipped by the PR agency or directly from the company with a few exceptions.
One entry per household/IP allowed, and any abuse of this condition will void all entries from household/IP in question.
Odds of winning depend on the number of entries received during the contest period.
Please wait 4-6 weeks prior to contacting us with regards to unreceived prizes unless it is a time sensitive prize. We’d love to hear from you when you receive your package and we’d also love to hear from you if you don’t so that we can help you out if we can. Unfortunately, we don’t take any responsibility for the safe arrival of your package as we aren’t the people doing the shipments…this time!

Good luck to all Mommies, Daddies, Grandparents and Friends!

With Love and Care,
The MommiesFirst Team

Oct 282014
 

Ana Begins
I can only assume that most parents have a conscious or subconscious idea about each new experience their child will inevitably discover as days, months and years unwind. I may be alone here, but what completely caught me off guard were the array of and often surprising feelings visiting me as my child experienced her new world. I might have been a bit at a disadvantage, as growing up feelings in my house were 99.9% taboo. In the last six and half years I have been transformed, or maybe re-born.

Alongside my daughter’s “firsts” I have opened a world of my own “firsts”. Seeing the world through my child’s eyes has brought me much joy, such as the cold sweet taste of ice cream spread around a smile or feeling the soft white sand tickling our feet. I have empathized with her frustration as a special toy has had a “time-out” do to the consequences of breaking rules.

What I DID NOT expect were the “firsts” that would fly by at jet speed and knock me right side up. “Firsts” with my name engraved wickedly large enough so there was zero confusion to whom they belong. The first time my bright-eyed and chubby munchkin pushed me away from a hug “no, mama… no” and quickly wiggled off the couch to sprint toward the toy bin. I felt jealousy. Jealousy? But, I don’t DO jealousy, especially not of a toy bin. Then there was the time she lied to me about brushing her teeth. She LIED to ME… Ouch. It hurt, but why? I’m supposed to be the grownup. It was suppose to be a simple, “Honey, we don’t lie and always tell the truth. Mommy will always love you no matter what. If you did not brush your teeth and need help I will help you. Telling a lie hurts your heart”. Simple, done, lesson learned moving on. I did not expect her to walk behind me and ask if it’s hard to have more than one kid. “Mama, you should be really thankful, because you just have one”. Double ouch! She’s 4! I felt bruised. Had I been too hard on her? Then there was the first time dropping her off at the babysitters = guilt, sadness, anxiety, doubt.

Not all “firsts” were difficult. Many were amazing and gave me strength as a mom and as an individual. The first time she made her bed and wore a smile of pride across her enchanting face. I felt satisfaction, pride and independence. The first time she introduced herself to a new friend without prompting. I felt more pride, security and joy. The first time she told me she loved her school’s cook’s homemade soup. I felt grateful, curious and comfort knowing she was loved and nourished at the place my husband and I chose to add to our village.

What I have learned through this journey as a mom is that I have feelings, and my feelings matter just as much as anyone else’s. I get to be angry, hurt, happy, joyful, proud, stressed, worried, sad, ecstatic, silly, independent, thoughtful, grateful. The key is to not enmesh my feelings with my child or her experience. My responsibility is to respect her experience separate from my own, but bask in the gift that I also get an experience, and many more “Firsts”.

To learn more about Ana, please read our introductory post about her.
Oct 162014
 

Ana Begins
“What happened to my Banana?” he said. “You use to be so fun”. Hmmph. Seriously. What did happen? I absolutely use to be fun (just ask Lorena…. Oh, wait on another note DO NOT ask her, she might tell you). As I dug the garbage out of the recycling can ready to strongly remind my family that dirty yogurt containers and used tissues DO NOT go in the recycle I wondered, “Where did I go? Should I start knocking door-to-door trying to find me”? If I had known this part of me would get lost I would have invested in a nice shiny tag that stated “When fun lost please contact Ana prior to 2008”.

I blame it on The Mom Switch. You know, that switch that goes “click” the moment your bundle gets handed to you for the very first time. Or is that the moment I quickly blame on becoming No Fun? I wish I had rolled my eyes at my beloved as I fished through the recycle bin, quietly fuming at how I am the only one who cleans up messes in this house. But I couldn’t because, dare I say it, “He was rrriig.. ri… right”. Could I live with the label, Buzz Kill, Party Pooper, Ball and Chain or even worse Annoying Mom? Could I live knowing every time my family made a mess I would shudder in resentment and annoyance at the task I would indeed have to clean up? No I couldn’t.

Why can’t I be the one to start the tickle wars, water gun fights and funny face contests? What is stopping me from making a special night dinner of hot fudge sundaes? Cannon-balls at the pool? I’m there! Singing at the top of my lungs in the car? Count me in! Fake reptiles in the drawers? The more the better! Fun Ana is back!

Just as soon as I clean up the exploded can of soda in the freezer and fish all of the loom bands stuck in the vacuum.

To learn more about Ana, please read our introductory post about her.
Aug 182014
 

Ana Begins
Episode #1
The day comes when you venture to the park with your new little bundle. Excited to be out of the house you anticipate meeting other mommies at the park. Maybe you will meet a new park friend in the process.
You have chosen a nice sunny spot right next to the sandbox, where small toddlers are busy digging. Two mommies are sitting within arms-reach. You cannot quite tell if they know each other. They seem friendly enough.

Mommy #1 “I plan to breast feed my daughter for AT LEAST one year. You know, it is the best for them and I cannot understand how any mother would think to do any less”.
Mommy #2 “I tried to breast feed my son, but I didn’t make it past two months. It was painful and exhausting”.
Mommy #1 “Did you call a lactation consultant? It really is the best for them. My two other kids were breast fed until they were two and a half and they are both in the ninety-nine percentile”.
The second mommy looks somewhat put off, then quickly announces it’s almost lunchtime and exits the conversation. Not really knowing where to go, as you never produced enough milk to breast feed at all, you say “Wow. That’s great”.
Mommy #1 looks at you, “What do you do? Are you working or staying home”? Feeling cautious you keep your answer open ended, “I am spending time with my baby for now”.
Mommy #1 quickly adds, “Staying home really is best for kids. They shouldn’t be away from the mothers until they are ready to go to Kindergarten. Why have kids if you are going to pay someone else to raise them? It really doesn’t make any sense”.

Episode #2
My daughter is very friendly and loves making new friends EVERYwhere we go. On our weekly Friday hot cocoa date we sat enjoying our treats at the local coffee shop. To her excitement two little girls walked in with their mommies and sat at the table next to us. My daughter stepped over introducing herself and one of the mommies complimented her skirt. I encouraged her to say “thank you”. Next thing I know the mother asks my daughter to turn around, puts her hands on her waste, slightly twists her and checks the tag. I sat there stunned and speechless. She turns to her friend and loudly announces, “I would NEVER pay that much for my daughter’s clothing”! and laughs.

When preparing for motherhood no one ever tells you how to prepare responses for these conversations. Or are we always aware of how we may express our preferences to others.

What I have learned from these encounters are that I have probably, without truly recognizing what I was saying, have made a statement about what I feel is best without considering those around me. I cannot control what others say, but I can control how I react, and have taken that into account when discussing touchy topics. Same size does not fit all. Everyone has their own ideas and experiences on how they want to raise their kids. With the exception of child abuse I really don’t have the right or responsibility to overstep my opinion. If I want respect I need to show respect. I have made choices for my family and I should feel confident in my choices. It’s not about me. These comments have nothing to do with the receiver and everything to do with the sender. Thinking of an encouraging phrase can help dissipate negativity.

Lastly, surround yourself with mommies who naturally offer empathy and support mutually. Motherhood is challenging enough.

To learn more about Ana, please read our introductory post about her.
May 092014
 

Welcome to our Month of MOM Celebration!

We would like to take the opportunity this month to celebrate YOU!

We will be hosting weekly giveaways and ending our month with a HUGE party on Wednesday May 28th, 9pmEST on Twitter!  

 

This week we have giveaway prizes from the following companies:

Pediped A pair of pediped shoes – arv $35-55
Facebook
@pedipedfootwear


Sigrid Naturals – A Sigrid Gift Basket – arv $48

Facebook

@SigridNaturals


My True Nature –  Squeaky Clean and “Beary” Soft Set – arv $47

Facebook


Buncha Farmers – Buncha Farmers Gift Basket – arv $60

Facebook

@BunchaFarmers


Rocky Mountain A Love Your Skin Pack – arv $47
Facebook
@rockymtnsoap


shoo-foo – Bamboo Baby Blanket – arv $52
Facebook

@shoofoo


OXO Tot A Drinking Set – arv $45
Facebook
@OXOTot


There will be 7 winners chosen at the end of this giveaway. Prizes and winners will be selected randomly.

 

Giveaway Rules and Regulations: Giveaway Open to: Canadian and US Residents (must be age of majority in place of residence at time of entry to participate.)
Giveaway begins: May 12, 2014 12:00am Giveaway ends: May 18, 2014 11:59PM
No purchase is necessary.
Giveaways are subject to all Federal, Provincial, and Municipal laws and regulations.
Giveaways are void where prohibited by law. By entering the following giveaway, you are accepting that if you win your contact information will be shared with a company or PR agency for the purpose of mailing your prize.
All giveaways hosted by MommiesFirst are not associated, nor sponsored by Facebook or any other Social Media platform. We hereby release Facebook (and all other social media platforms) of any liability.
Winners will be selected randomly using Giveaway Tools within 72 hours of the giveaway.
Winners will be notified via email. Winners will have 72 hours from the time the email was sent to respond with the answer to a skill testing question and their full name, mailing address and phone number (required for shipping purposes only). If no response has been received (note – MommiesFirst will not be held responsible for faulty email or any technical difficulties related to the sending/receiving of an email) by this time the winner will be disqualified and a new winner will be randomly selected.
Potential or disqualified winners have no recourse towards MommiesFirst or any other company, pr firm or person involved in this Giveaway.
Giveaways may end and/or be cancelled without notice.
MommiesFirst assumes no responsibility for any technical difficulties that may affect the entries in this giveaway or the communication/reception of emails, posts or messages between the winner and MommiesFirst. In other words, if your entry isn’t received properly due to technical difficulties, MommiesFirst will not be held responsible.
All giveaway entrants are entering giveaways on the MommiesFirst website, at their own risk. MommiesFirst nor the giveaway sponsor assumes any responsibility for the shipping, safe arrival, quality, taxes or duty fees for prizes.
Prizes are shipped by the PR agency or directly from the company with a few exceptions.
One entry per household/IP allowed, and any abuse of this condition will void all entries from household/IP in question.
Odds of winning depend on the number of entries received during the contest period.
Please wait 4-6 weeks prior to contacting us with regards to unreceived prizes unless it is a time sensitive prize. We’d love to hear from you when you receive your package and we’d also love to hear from you if you don’t so that we can help you out if we can, but we don’t take any responsibility for it as we aren’t the people doing the shipments!

 

Good luck to all Mommies (and Daddies, Grandparents, Friends etc.)!

With Love and Care,

The MommiesFirst Team