Aug 182014
 

Ana Begins
Episode #1
The day comes when you venture to the park with your new little bundle. Excited to be out of the house you anticipate meeting other mommies at the park. Maybe you will meet a new park friend in the process.
You have chosen a nice sunny spot right next to the sandbox, where small toddlers are busy digging. Two mommies are sitting within arms-reach. You cannot quite tell if they know each other. They seem friendly enough.

Mommy #1 “I plan to breast feed my daughter for AT LEAST one year. You know, it is the best for them and I cannot understand how any mother would think to do any less”.
Mommy #2 “I tried to breast feed my son, but I didn’t make it past two months. It was painful and exhausting”.
Mommy #1 “Did you call a lactation consultant? It really is the best for them. My two other kids were breast fed until they were two and a half and they are both in the ninety-nine percentile”.
The second mommy looks somewhat put off, then quickly announces it’s almost lunchtime and exits the conversation. Not really knowing where to go, as you never produced enough milk to breast feed at all, you say “Wow. That’s great”.
Mommy #1 looks at you, “What do you do? Are you working or staying home”? Feeling cautious you keep your answer open ended, “I am spending time with my baby for now”.
Mommy #1 quickly adds, “Staying home really is best for kids. They shouldn’t be away from the mothers until they are ready to go to Kindergarten. Why have kids if you are going to pay someone else to raise them? It really doesn’t make any sense”.

Episode #2
My daughter is very friendly and loves making new friends EVERYwhere we go. On our weekly Friday hot cocoa date we sat enjoying our treats at the local coffee shop. To her excitement two little girls walked in with their mommies and sat at the table next to us. My daughter stepped over introducing herself and one of the mommies complimented her skirt. I encouraged her to say “thank you”. Next thing I know the mother asks my daughter to turn around, puts her hands on her waste, slightly twists her and checks the tag. I sat there stunned and speechless. She turns to her friend and loudly announces, “I would NEVER pay that much for my daughter’s clothing”! and laughs.

When preparing for motherhood no one ever tells you how to prepare responses for these conversations. Or are we always aware of how we may express our preferences to others.

What I have learned from these encounters are that I have probably, without truly recognizing what I was saying, have made a statement about what I feel is best without considering those around me. I cannot control what others say, but I can control how I react, and have taken that into account when discussing touchy topics. Same size does not fit all. Everyone has their own ideas and experiences on how they want to raise their kids. With the exception of child abuse I really don’t have the right or responsibility to overstep my opinion. If I want respect I need to show respect. I have made choices for my family and I should feel confident in my choices. It’s not about me. These comments have nothing to do with the receiver and everything to do with the sender. Thinking of an encouraging phrase can help dissipate negativity.

Lastly, surround yourself with mommies who naturally offer empathy and support mutually. Motherhood is challenging enough.

To learn more about Ana, please read our introductory post about her.
Feb 042014
 

 

Well, I’m gonna say right off the bat, that while I am absolutely thrilled to be guest blogging for MommieFirst, I’m not an expert. I’m the same as every want-to-be-a-mom, expecting-mom and just-trying-to-make-it-through-another-day-mom out there.

 

The only ‘expertise’ I have on Motherhood comes from living it, sometimes loving it, other times just trying to survive it. My house can be an embarrassment, my older kid’s behavior can be deplorable, and, when I was pregnant, I didn’t glow. Not for one day. That’s not to say I wasn’t thrilled to my sea-sick gills to be pregnant or that I don’t thank my lucky stars for my sweet littles every day. (I was, I do). More to say it hasn’t been easy. Real life is messy. Well mine is anyway. And, for me, the rewards don’t come without their fair share of hard work.

 

Thanks to a boat load of stick-to-it-ive-ness and the miracle of modern medicine, our family has been blessed with 2 petites. The first is now 4 and is a charming, funny, adorable handful of a boy. The second is a 13.5 month old baby girl. She is tiny, and giggly and feisty. She has to be, I suppose. She was born 6 weeks early and took a 25 day pit stop in the NICU on the way home. She’s also been diagnosed with a very rare genetic syndrome and has to work hard at every little thing that comes easily to other babies. That has brought a whole other aspect to parenting that I wasn’t expecting but we’re taking it in stride. And, she really is very cute which goes a long way when she is wide awake at 3 am. I also need to note the two in between. Part of so many other women’s story too, my miscarriages also play a role in defining who I am and my perspective on the road to parenthood. I know, people say *you’re not supposed to talk about miscarriage*, but I just don’t believe that to be true. And besides, this is my story, and I can talk about what I like.

 

Huh, when you lay it all out like that, it seems like a sad story. Infertility, never-ending morning sickness, more infertility, miscarriages, special needs baby. Please don’t read it that way. It’s not. It is the story of a hope that endured to produce one joy, was tested not once, but twice, then was blessed again. It’s every mother’s story. It’s a love story. And really, what’s a good love story without a few tears, right?

 

Like I said before, I’m no expert, but I am thrilled to be able open up the pages of our book and share our story.

 

I hope you enjoy the ride.

Dec 032013
 

Upon our search for some inspiring posts about being a Mommy, we came across a wonderful post written by Lisa from fab frugal mama
In this post, she compares her “pre-Mama” self and life with her current Mommy of two status.

Child Hand Holding Mommy Hand

“Before I became a Mom, I owned “Dry Clean Only” clothes; I coordinated my jewelry with my outfit, wore stylish shoes and (almost) always did my hair and makeup.

I had time to myself, read books, indulged in hobbies, and loved to go shopping. There was time to try out new recipes, do my nails, go to yoga, and further my career.

All that changed when I had kids…”

Find out how Lisa’s life has changed after having kids over at her blog, fab frugal mama.

Thank you, Lisa for sharing your Mommy post with us!
Lisa is a WAHM who started blogging after the birth of her second child. She would often get questions from first-time Moms about where to buy the coolest baby gadgets or what stroller she thought was the best so, while on maternity leave, the idea of writing her own blog was born. She loves writing about her parenting adventures, reviewing products for her family, and sharing ways to live well on a budget.
 

Dec 032013
 

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